The only real thing I share with Carrie La Seur, attorney, author, and stalker-of-mine, is an alma mater. Both of us went to Bryn Mawr College. I’m not sure if we were there at the same time or not. I certainly didn’t know her at the time. I’m kind of sorry about that because if I had, I would not be still, all this time later, dealing with her. I’d have run for the hills at the sound of her name.
I’ve written a couple of times about being stalked and about how it’s terrifying and how the sense of being watched constantly and never knowing when the stalker is going to snap and actually do you or your family physical harm (not discounting the tremendous emotional and financial harm already done) keeps you awake at night and leaves you shaking in crowds and constantly on edge. Stalkers are sick, fucked up people.
And while no one has ascribed one single mental illness to the behavior, there is a consensus among researchers that stalking activities, in themselves, are contributable to a variety of unhealthy mental states.
In reality, most stalkers do not suffer from hallucinations or delusions, although many do suffer from other forms of mental illness including depression, substance abuse, and personality disorders. (Source: HERE)
It’s fair to say, then, that on top of dealing with a chronically ill child and financial woes and floods and famines and other crap, I’ve had to deal with being stalked by a woman who likely has a serious mental illness. Carrie La Seur, a fellow alum of Bryn Mawr College, who drapes herself in the cloak of the Honor Code of the college much the same way that the Alt-Right Nazis drape themselves in the American Flag has been relentless. Both are up to no good, bent on harassing others they view as “their enemy” and at this point in time, unstoppable because they have people in power who won’t make them cease and tolerate their misdeeds. Bryn Mawr, is, ironcially, wrangling with its own questionable racist/anti-Semitic identity at the moment calling into question the very Honor Code to which some of its alums try so desperately to cling. I’ll get to that in a minute if you bear with me.
I made the decision a few months ago to come forward and tell the world what Carrie La Seur what was doing to me and to my ten-year-old son with this post. Hiding in silence seemed unwise any longer. Without the attention she was seeking, she was ramping things up, and I feared for our safety. Friends were perplexed. Without her actually showing up waving a gun in front of my house, there was little law enforcement could do.
I had filed a counter-suit against her in court, where all of this was going to come out in the wash, but she still wouldn’t let the courts handle things . And when the legal issues settled, I asked for a cease and desist of all communication with and about one another, which her attorney, David Grunfeld of Astor Weiss in Philadelphia, declined rather stupidly. And so, of course, she kept it up. And so, of course, I told him about it, and I pointed out that whatever else she does now leaves her open to a retaliatory lawsuit and criminal charges that I will make very public. But even though she was warned, she persisted. She is no Elizabeth Warren, though. And so, I wrote this post. And again, for a month, I thought things had settled down and we were done.
That’s the thing about stalkers, though, right? You always think maybe they’re done, and then they’re not?
There’s a twist to the tale that I left out. I bring it up now for a good reason. You see, Carrie has an alter-ego she calls Eleanor Borthwick, and Eleanor comes here to the blog and leaves messages that don’t get posted. It’s usually in the middle of the night because I guess when you’re trying to be scary and intimidating, that’s the best time of day to do it. Make no mistake. That is what she’s doing. Like a metaphor for “I’m watching you constantly.” Cause she fancies herself a fabulous writer.
A quick search of this creepy Washington Post-reviewed website and some follow through on the associates will lead you to the connection between Eleanor and Carrie. She’s not as smart as she’d like the world to think.
But here are Eleanor’s comments, that I’ve chosen not to publish in the blog comments section:
Making new enemies in your new home! true to form. Still begging for money , true to form. I wondered how long it would be before you would be pissing people off. 2017/09/01 at 10:54 pm
Afraid to post my comment? Pay what you owe, and stop begging for money online. 2017/07/24 at 2:36 am
Wowsers, You are completely insane now, aren’t you!!! Give it a break, pay the woman the money for the car, and move on! 2017/07/24 at 2:36 am
Seeing as I cannot comment on your last rant I’ll add it here. My IP address is not even in the US so cannot be Carrie. Have never met Carrie but I hope her lawyers are reading this. I am a qualified medical professional and have worked in mental health so I know crazy when I see it. I am not threatening your child, I am merely concerned the affect your clearly unstable mental state must be having on him Nowhere have I threatened either of you, I haven’t mentioned that he should not be in your custody nor have I made any threats against yourself. I would like to see you get help so this blog can be less paranoid ranting and begging for money and more hermit crabs. I do however feel bad for Carrie that you are slandering her here and some kind people are falling for your lies. 2017/05/23 at 8:29 pm
Still not Carrie. Have not been instructed in anything. Get help. 2017/05/23 at 6:04 pm
You are full of shit Karin. Honestly my concern is not for a professional rip of merchant like you but for your kid who has to witness your insanity. I’m not threatening either of you. I just wish you would get the help you need. It’s very sad to see a former friend rambling like this. 2017/05/23 at 5:05 am
Seriously Karin neither of those posts were by Carrie. You are seriously paranoid and insane. Get help. If not for yourself then for your son. 2017/05/23 at 12:13 am
I actually agree with this statement. Where your blog used to be amusing and light, it has become incredibly insane. I think you truly to need to get help, and are slipping into a bad place. 017/05/22 at 10:54 pm
Karin, you need help. Seriously go to a Dr and gets some meds because you are losing whatever grip you ever had on sanity. 2017/05/20 at 2:05 am
Notice the dates. And notice her continued, frightening obsession with my child and remember this pot of shit she stirred up about him here? That focus on my young child scares me, as it would scare any parent. And until last night, she’d limited the strange, gaslighting comments to the posts that were about her (that were fully supported by published evidence, mind you). But gaslighting is a trait of the mentally ill, and it’s one they use to confuse, scare and abuse their victims. See the pattern above?
At one point, she disabled the account she was using because her attorney warned her the police were tracing it, but she’s back again with a different IP and the same name and email address, and once again, I’ll have the police tracing her. I’m not putting up with this; I will use all the legal avenues available. But the thing is? No one even doubts this her. It’s arresting her or stopping her before she does any additional harm to my child or me that is the issue. Carrie is the only person who could or would have known this stuff, she’s the only one who had any skin in the game, and she’s the only person I’ve ever tangled about with money. Like ever. Literally no one else knows or cares that I exist, and certainly not around these issues. So the obsession? Not hard to figure out, right.
Also, as a blogger, I know you need to be prepared for negative comments. It’s the interwebs. But I don’t write about controversial stuff, and I don’t write about things that generate a lot of strong feelings, and I don’t attract trolls. This is the absolute only person who ever wants to post negative things, and I get lots and lots of traffic here. I don’t think she realizes that most blogs are either affiliate funded or donation funded, and lots of them have places for followers to donate some loose change to keep the site alive as we do pay for hosting and other services. Or maybe she does and just wants to call names. Who knows when you’re dealing with nutters?
But the whole thing gets even weirder. Remember I talked about the Bryn Mawr Connection? Oh Ms. Carrie has been busy on that front, too. Because she is determined to see that I am kicked out of every alumnae group on earth. She might even be trying to get my degree rescinded. Who the hell really knows what’s next? The one thing we can all agree on is that you cannot predict crazy. Because I recently got this:
That’s hard to read, right? So, Tonda Shimbo Lobenherz, a supposed Christian and a church goer, who is also a moderator of Mawrters with Kids, a FB group in which I almost never participated and certainly hadn’t recently, kicked me out because Carrie told her to. Got that? Because of an honor code that was, at best, arbitrarily applied 25 years when we were in college, that I in no way violated by protecting myself and my son from the real and present danger that is Carrie La Seur’s constant stalking. See the date there? July 2017. That was a month ago. Long after the previous legal wrangling stopped, Only Carrie La Seur did not.
And Tonda isn’t the first one. OMG. No! La Seur had me thrown out of You Know You Went To Bryn Mawr College When and Alexandra Quinn booted me from Mawrtyrs at Work and because of Carrie’s malicious lies under the thin veil of an Honor Code that they cannot even enforce because it doesn’t work in a world where not everyone agrees to live under it. I mean that At Work one made zero sense because wouldn’t you think someone who wanted money from me would have wanted me to be working? But she doesn’t use the logic the way the rest of us do. She is all about vengeance.
And so on Tuesday, I will re-connect with law enforcement here and give them this new IP address and message, and they’ll re-connect with Tredyffrin Township Police, and we’ll keep on building the case that will, eventually, put her in handcuffs. Because she’s not just stalking me. No, she’s bothering my friends and my family, and she’s done that in writing. I’m luckier here than I was in Pennsylvania. I have three intersecting and cooperating law enforcement agencies that work together, not just one township department that doesn’t see a lot of serious crime. Florida’s local law enforcement in this area takes these things seriously, and a lot of those serving know Murph personally because he’s going to school with their children.
Meanwhile, I’m thinking that learning how to operate a handgun, applying for a permit, taking some lessons and keeping it handy may be in order. Florida is a stand your ground state, and heaven knows I’m scared of this woman who seems unable to forget that I exist and intent on causing me and my already anxiety-riddled child upset. I don’t have an ex-cop with a gun and license next door here; it’s just us, on our own with some lizards and roosters. And that’s got me scared now. Stalking is all about inspiring fear, right? Well, she wins that one.
I’m worried that Carrie La Seur aka Eleanor’s inability to let this be is going to land her in my path sooner rather than later. I don’t understand this mentality that doesn’t let things go.
There are so many things I’d rather be writing about than this. Honestly. I want to write about Key West Aloe and Key West Body Scrubs and Danger Charters, and I’m worried about Taco Grilla who’s been sick. I don’t want to even think about Carrie La Seur or Eleanor Borthwick or worry about what’s next from her or whether I need a firearm. And yet, here we go again.
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Update: As of 6PM on September 3, I haven’t heard from back from Eleanor Borthwick. Confusing, right? She badly wanted to comment on every other post that even mentioned Carrie La Seur. And yet, on this one, silence. I hope the police will have the final word this time. -K
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